Friday, July 26, 2013

Contract Negotiations DONE! Insurance Application DONE!

Today was an AMAZING day!!

So MaMa D and I went through the contract and changed what we both wanted.  Now we just need to find lawyers to make it legal :) then we sign and notarize and here we come with making the baby!

Her Embryo adoption agency  needs the RE to fill out paperwork verifying that I can carry. We both hope they will accept the medical records I sent!! Once we get that the embryo adoption will be all good to go !

In the mean time I applied for my Health Insurance so that it can be active and ready to go! They said it will take a week to 4 weeks to get it all approved for that as well!

So now we just wait on solidifying the RE that I can carry, then the agency will release the eggs, and in the meantime insurance goes into place and the contracts will get signed :)  it sure is MOVING!

Wednesday, July 24, 2013

Contracts, Utah holiday, Parade Oh my busy day!!

So here in Utah we have a HUGE holiday today (its more of a Mormon holiday, but its a state holiday too). So I have been trying to focus on the joy of the holiday :)  However, I haven't ignored surrogacy completely. I worked on the contract this morning , putting MaMa D's name in and changing things to match our situation so that we can focus on going over the contract and not just changing names and terminology (like changing all the parts where it says "genetic parents" to Intended mother. and at times it looked funny, so I had to change some words to make it look good :) I have to pretend I'm REALLY a writer!
Then right as I got back home from my very eventful day of events, I sat at my computer and continued working on it and Mama D Texted me and said that her family was leaving tomorrow morning so she will be focusing on the adoption and the contract! Woo hoo!! I think its funny our minds both were thinking about it at the same time :) SWEET :)

I gather I'm probably gonna skype with her tomorrow or friday and get the details nailed out :) My divorce should be finalized friday too WOO HOOOOooooo!!! well I get to file a default friday .. and then wait for the judge to sign it :) but essentially ... divorce finalized friday :) Its a good thing to be rid of! It has blocked my surrogacy long enough!!

I thought I'd end with some good pics of the Parade :)

24th of July is the celebration of Pioneers coming to the Utah Valley and settling our state! Its BIG DEAL  We celebrate our heritage of Pioneers  Donna, Kyra and I (and my mom for about 3 blocks) rode a wagon pulled by our goat ShoShana . Doe-athy came too but she just ran next the waggon  then we camped at the Park at the end and did a little petting zoo for kids that was really fun!! Sucky part .. IT POURED RAIN half the time! Good part.. It made it cool down and was a lovely fast (but hard) rain!

Just working on the finishing touches... in the pouring rain LOL.. we walked behind our ward's float. THe tall one with the Goats leash is my oldest KK and the little one in front of the wagon is DD the brown goat is SHoshana Bean- the goat-  and the white goat is Doe-athy .. all of our animals are named after Wicked the musical characters or actors

KK was so HAPPY at the beginning of the parade route  Shoshana Bean the goat was so happy too!! she loved pulling the wagon!! Grandma D was even stoked in the beginning 


KK was Nearly DONE!! Notice  the GNARLY rain downpour in the back ground LOL that had JUST passed over us LOL it was OK though cause it was A LONG walk and its good it wasn't HOT TOO!

Shoshana was done.. she didn't want to pull the wagon anymore!! LOL funny enough she LOVES pulling the waggon LOL  just not 3 miles!! Fortunately at this point we were ALMOST at the end! (like 2 blocks to go!)  She Just wanted to walk under my feat, KK kept having to drag her into the middle of the road! Poor little Doe-athy the goat just wanted me too LOL (there was a loud car in front of us that every time it would rev it scared her, and being a baby it was sad 

I apparently just saw someone I know..  LOL or practicing a cheezy parade wave while walking a goat.. thats talent right?? 

Shoshana decided she'd snuggle with grandma under her umbrella during the rain storm!

Rain started again but instead of getting in the covered wagon (as we suggested to her when the rain began) DD wanted to scrunch under her umbrella.. whatever .. sure!! Your cute.. you can do what you want!! lol

Let the petting and POUNDS of leaves from the near by tree .. begin!! LOL you could almost see the savoring of this leaf on this goats face LOL 

Our little petting Zoo at the park Pioneer style! .. they LOVED IT! 

Monday, July 22, 2013

Its official I'm going independent with MaMa D :)

So after a good talk with my agency this morning and confirming with MaMa D that we are on I took the plunge and ended the match with Divine M ... I am grateful everyone feels good about it (me the agency, divine, and Mama D)  Now I am FULLY invested in and focused on working towards this match with MaMa D :)

At times I feel like a stalker cause Im texting her a lot but I am just so excited about being her match :) I really enjoyed our first skyping and chat we connected well and I feel we matched personalities well :)
I texted and asked if I could write a little about her on the blog so that the readers could understand why I love this mama already. I always as permission and make sure that boundaries are set and she was gracious enough to allow me to tell you her story.

MaMa D always wanted to get married and find a man to settle down with and to have children with ... Romeo never showed up (and from my experience they are few and far between anyway) and a few years ago she felt she would pursue single mama-hood on her own, she had a well established career and had the means to support a child and wanted to fulfill her dream!. In that search she found a very large tumor in her uterus and it could not be saved. Devastated, she picked herself up and took it like a woman and just felt adoption might be the way to go! She went with an agency In Los Angeles and was scammed not once but twice by birth mothers who had pretty gnarly drug habits! Needless to say she didn't get the babies. Again heartbroken, but with her head held high she is turning to surrogacy. She is in her 40's so she didn't want to use her own eggs, she felt more passionate about using an Adopted Embryo.  Adopted embryo's is something I hadn't ever heard of. When families are done with their IVF, they have the kids they want and they don't need anymore cycles, however they don't want to destroy the embryo's, that are already 5-8 days old, they adopt them out allowing another parent to have the dream of a baby!
She read my profile on Surrogate mother and saw my blog and so here we are...

I have noticed her personality is like me .. She's a get it worked on and taken care of type person :) I want to get in get it done and get out :P I have a feeling she's EXACTLY THE SAME! Some people take their time getting paperwork handled, and mozy about getting testing done.. ME .. mama D... someone wants it we get it done!!  Its easiest and most efficient that way!!

Today she reached out to both her Embryo Adoption agency and her RE and both are working on getting things squared quickly :) I texted her to check to see how things were going talking with them and to let her know about the period thing if her RE needed the transvaginal or if they'll just take the SIS She texted back "No worries, I'm waiting for my agency (embryo adoption agency) to call back had to leave a vmail this morning probably will cause contract for embryo's is pending still Ahhh lawyers" LOL I love her personality :) I know she will be a great mama with her great positive attitude about everything!

She has family in town this week so we will still be in communication about the RE and Embryo adoption process touch and go. But this weekend  (when they family is gone) we will be working on final contract discussions so that we can save her some money on lawyers by working out the issues with the contract with each other. That way when all the kinks are worked out the lawyers will just be doing finalization and cost her a TON less!!  (cause let all be REAL HERE it doesn't matter if she's a Physician, Surrogacy is STILL BLOODY EXPENSIVE!! and any money that can be saved can go BACK to that precious baby!!)

Meanwhile back with the body ***warning TMI however necessary TMI info for Surrogacy***  I know my cycle REALLY WELL... I am due to start my period today, its slightly streaking so it will likely fully start tomorrow... the reason I mention this that RE's like to do the Interuterine ultrasound while on your period to check the thickness of your lining and to make sure that your uterus is all good to go. I actually got an SIS done already, which essentially does the same thing except they put a dye in my uterus so the Dr  can see clearly ;) Which is great cause now I don't have to do the BLOODY one :P



Friday, July 19, 2013

Bye Bye Divine.. Hello MaMa D

So I have been SUPER busy with my Herbalife work this weekend and week in California for a Leadership development weekend and honestly haven't thought much about surrogacy.

Back onto my Surrogacy!!

I have had off and on discussions with my Agency this week. Over all I am not sure I want to continue with Divine Mrs M.  I want an IM that I can have regular daily contact with and I honestly don't feel I will get that from her.

I just wrote this REALLY LONG blog about my feelings.. I feel I should probably learn to censor myself and simply put I am now looking at a new IM. No ones fault.. not agency, not divine's its more that I need a hands on IM and she's pretty busy!

Any how...  Among the discussions with the agency about various things that I'm not sure I want with Divine Mrs M,   MaMa D Emailed me over the weekend with a plea asking for my help. She's gonna be a single mama, ER DO Physician (more holistic, naturalistic type physician) lives in San Diego has a close family.  I decided to email her back 2 days ago. Since no money has been spent on me, contracts aren't even starting to be drawn up let alone signed with Divine so I felt I am okay talking to others. The agency even said that if I don't feel we should be matched anymore they would understand if I unmatched with her.  I feel bad leaving the agency and going independent but to be really honest I have not yet began an emotional connection with divine... cause the agency is always monitoring and I cant just call and talk to her. I really like the lady that owns the agency.. but I've got to do what's best for me right ??

Anyhoo so I started emailing MaMA D  back and forth for and we skyped today I really like her :) So HOPEFULLY I have finally found the right IM :) I feel like a broken record but I REALLY feel like this is the ONE! We had a very smooth, good conversation. We have a lot of similar views and I feel its gonna make for an amazing match for us :)
I'm so sad to end it with Divine Miss M, but I am also excited to start this journey with MaMa D and see where this leads!!

Another really cool thing about MaMa D is that she's adopting Embryos... which I think is SO COOL ! I hadn't heard of it till today. When a family is done with their IVF and don't need left over embryo's they adopt them out... thats way neat!! Anyhoo so she will have adopted embryos.. Her sister had a baby through embryo adoption too!!

Anyhoo we had a great skype call and I really enjoyed talking to her !! I think we will have a great bond :)
So wish me luck on the new match!





Wednesday, July 10, 2013

Agency or Independent ??

This is Step 2 of a series of blogs to show steps to surrogacy. If you haven't read it already, here is Step 1: Preparing yourself! Pre-Matching 

Once your clear you want to be either an IP or a Surro and you have everything in line for the surrogacy and you are clear that it is something you want to do...

Now before we go to the next step of Finding your match, (step 2) I want to discuss  

Pro's and cons of Independent VS Agency... 

There are MANY factors to consider for both parties... As the usual disclaimer .. I am probably not going to get EVERY factor... however, I will try to cover most that people think of first. These are also part OPINION, and part FACT.  This is not an end all say all... There are great amazing points to having an agency and great amazing points to being independent. I hope I am fair to everyone that reads this.

Pro's of having an Agency 

Both 
  • PROTECTION PROTECTION PROTECTION! 
  • They do the match finding for you, give you options. Generally the agency will give you choices to choose from and they already weeded out terms you want and don't want. - when you fill out the agency profile, they will select match's that meet your needs and beliefs. IE GS vs TS; Termination issues: selective reduction beliefs: location. Etc. 
  • They know all the steps forward, backward and sideways and they are there for you every step of the way of the process. 
  • Makes the surrogacy process FASTER because of the efficiency of the Scheduling done by the agency. They (usually) coordinate all, planning, flights, legal, background checks, medical, insurance, requirements, paperwork, and you are walked through it all step by step. 
  • They make sure to the best of their ability  that EVERYTHING in the contract is carried out. 
  • Provides a middle man that works out impersonal issues, like legal, and financial issues without harming the Surro-IP relationship.
  • They negotiate the contract with both parties and give them a non bias ground, saving the surro and IP's from hurt feelings because of difference of opinion. 
  • They manage the Escrow account for fee disbursement and provide proof of reimbursements to the IP's to be paid for. Protecting false claims to the IP's and getting the Surro reimbursed quickly. 
IP's
  • No need to search and search for your surro... Often IP's search and search for months or years sometimes. However an agency will match you in a significantly shorter amount of time. 
  • Ideal for busy IP's- time saving. 
  • Ideal for IP's wanting to match quickly.
  • Protects the IP's financially- keeps them protected from SCAMS! 
Surro's 
  • The surro doesn't contact the IP when she need funds disbursed, she contacts the agency. This is a HUGE pro!! and generally the MAIN reason surro's prefer agency's. 
  • Quick and efficient. 

 Con's Of an Agency 

Both 
  • Can at times feel impersonal- sometimes Surro's and IP's want to have a relationship from the beginning. However the agency tries to arrange conversations with the IP's and Surro they try to make it more match based  the Surro and IP's aren't free to communicate until after contracts are signed (generally, this is not always the case but it is in most agency's) 
  • Most surrogacy agency policies are set in stone and they will not waver such as fee's, Surro requirements, IP requirements.  (I have been turned down for an agency based on the state I live in! ) 
  • Generally no TS- I don't know of any agency that works with TS. 
  • There are some commercial surrogacy agencies that are biased and will look out more for one party. For instance if an agency director that was once a gestational surrogate mother she may favor surrogates or an agency may follow the money and will favor intended parents. HOWEVER, a good way that GOOD agency's prevent this is that there is a surrogate coordinator and an IP coordinator so that they are both fairly looked out for (I AM being bias here, but the agency I'm working with does this to keep it balanced.) 
IP's 
  • COST- IP's can pay anywhere from $3000-20,000 to the agency to get their help and some IP's just cant find the extra money, or don't see the value in the agency. 
Surro's

  • They can be quite picky on their choosing for a surrogate. That is why its VERY IMPORTANT that you follow Step #1 fully otherwise you will likely be denied from an agency.  Just because you're denied by one agency doesn't mean you're denied by ALL. You can have been denied by some agencies for some stupid reasons, some legit reasons. Heck I was even denied for being Mormon by one agency. It made me laugh, but I just moved on to the next one! 

If you choose that an agency is for you here are starting places for agencies. When I began this article I was originally going to list agencies as a starting point, but then I got to thinking about the fact that EVERY situation is different. I didn't want to suggest a bad agency even though it may be popular. I didn't want to point fingers at this one is better than that one, or make it seem like I was endorsing agencies. Also I have to take in account the respect I have for the agency that I am currently working with (and frankly love working with.) So thought I'd suggest guidelines to guide you to an agency instead THEREFORE the choice not to list agencies was deliberate. Some of the ways to find agencies: google Surrogacy agencies, you will get HUNDREDS! Perhaps searching for agencies that specialize in your state, Asking your RE what agencies he's worked with and like, Asking IP's or surro's who they work with and how they like it. 

Make sure you research your agency and are confident in their ability to fill your needs. Also if you are not able to reach your agency worker  in a reasonable amount of time, think about how that might affect you later on. Will they be attentive to your needs?  and GET unbiased references. you can go on just about any Surrogacy board and ask for references about experiences about  ____ agency and people will give you honest feedback. 


Pro's of being Independent 

Both:  
  • Allows for a personal connection from the beginning. 
  • Allows for a larger freedom of choice and a wider ability to negotiate etc. 
  • Allows for Traditional Surrogacy (which is cheaper than  IVF) 
  • You set your own terms and discuss them with your IP's or surro freely. 
IP's 
  • Cost- saves the cost of the agency fee's ($3000-20,000) 
Surro's
  • No agency denying you. 

Con's of being Independent 

Both: 
  • Searching and weeding through people to find your match. This can take months and in some cases years. 
  • There are ALOT of scams out there so BE CAREFUL! There is little to no protection from scammers as an independent! 
  • Take your time! To prevent scams, can be easy to skip steps but know its all for YOUR protection! and as an independent you need as much protection as you can! 
  • MANY states ban Traditional Surrogacy.
IP's 
  • Doing all the footwork of: background checks, medical clearance, arranging travel, legal, insurance etc. 
  • If doing TS- BE CAREFUL, many states consider the mother the MOTHER in TS and the IM will need to adopt the baby. So tread carefully and REALLY get to know your surro, and everyone she surrounds herself with! 
  • It is VERY easy to be taken advantage of! Make sure you stick with your contract to help you not paying out too much. You don't need to pay for your surro's light bill, cell phone bill, and any other crazy bill that has nothing to do with surrogacy! Don't get walked on just because you fear losing your baby! 
Surro's 
  • Little if any protection from IP's not paying bills, fee's and reimbursements etc. 
  • Little protection if the IP's disappear- leaving you pregnant, and with a baby. 

OK so Looking up at the blog I know that it seems I am agency Bias... and  honestly I AM a little agency bias, I tried going independent and I have tried with an agency.  I know that I am more protected. and I know that is a big factor for me. 
However if you wish to go independent, here are places you can go to search. Most comonly known is www.surromomsonline.com www.Surrogatemother.com and www.allaboutsurrogacy.com there are also facebook pages, and other random places you can look. You can also contact local reproductive Lawyers, your OB's office, or Fertility clinic's in your area. They sometimes have people looking for a match and you might be just what they are looking for! 

As I always DISCLAIM- I am NOT an expert- this is a fraction of reasons of pro's and cons- I know there are SO MANY other pro's and con's to Agencies and Independents Please feel free to Comment any additions you think I should add in :) 

Now the next step is - Step 2- FINDING YOUR MATCH - Questions to ask- 



Tuesday, July 9, 2013

Steps to surrogacy.. its a long road... Step 1: Preparing yourself! Before seeking and finding your match!

OK so a friend of mine asked me to write a blog about "steps to surrogacy" so that she can understand what to do. She is an IM starting a journey with a TS. She is going independent and would like some advice. I started talking with her this morning about what tests and things she needs to have her surro have, how to get records etc. we started talking and she asked if I could write out a blog about it ...
I told her "SURE" then i realized.. what did I commit to?

 Even though I haven't done it yet...  yes this is my first journey.. I have HONESTLY researched it since childhood! So this is a GENERALITY of what I suggest to do to prepare yourself for a journey in surrogacy. After all EVERY journey is NOT the same, and there are always MANY variables that go into surrogacy. However I hope this becomes like a "beginners guide" and I hope it helps SOMEONE out there!

Lets first start with... I am NOT an EXPERT AT ALL in this, I know what I know just from researching and talking with others, and tests and things I have done myself.

First question people ask me: WHY SURROGACY ?? Why not adopt? 


Couples after years and years of trying to conceive with no pregnancy , having multiple miscarriages, medical problems that prevent pregnancy, failed adoptions, a desire to have a baby that is their own "flesh and blood," just to scratch the surface of  ALL reasons people turn to surrogacy. After they are heartbroken enough, possibly trying IVF themselves, trying to adopt, with heartbreak of the birth mother changing their minds... they come to surrogacy.. Their "last chance" to have a baby is usually how IP's feel about the surrogacy process. THIS is why I am a surrogate!! I take a family that is emotionally broken from all the heartache, and help them fulfill a lifelong wish of having a baby!  (I'm honestly crying over how much I feel about this subject!) What could be more of a selfless, loving special gift to give someone?

The second question they ask is:  HOW can you give the baby away? 


People think Surrogacy is like adoption for the surrogate. So she MUST be emotionally attached to the baby etc. for ME.. SO NOT TRUE!!...  I will love the baby like an aunt and sure I will wonder about the baby, however.. I'M NOT THE MOM!

This baby is LOVED WELL before I am even in the picture let alone when I even get pregnant!! FOr all those reasons listed about those parent LOVE THAT BABY WAY MORE THAN I could even DREAM to!! (**side note** Don't let me steer you into a false belief that I don't love the baby, I do and always will, just like my nieces and nephews, and family, you always hope they are doing great even though you may or may not have contact with them!)   The baby is so loved from the time its a little gamete, to zygote, to embryo, to fetus, to baby!!
I always know and have the mind frame that I am just an EXTREME BABYSITTER! .. I'm the stork... NOT the mother!! I make sure everyone around me knows this baby is not mine, its for a loving couple that needs my help!! Heck I have been preping people my WHOLE LIFE, cause I have ALWAYS KNOWN I was going to be a surrogate one day. But definitely letting people know that you are looking into surrogacy helps people prepare themselves, keeping form the awkward questions in the pregnancy.
As I have said (and probably will say many more times) Its the ultimate thing I can do to help a family!! give them their baby they have loved for years already!  How amazing is THAT?!?!!?

With that.. lets get started on steps to surrogacy ... {looks up} that was quite the intro... I hope I deliver well :P I will list a step: separate into Surro and IP's and what I have done or plan to do.

#1 Pre-matching 

Both: 


  • Educate themselves!! Learn about everything , all possibilities, what will work financially, emotionally, and how it will affect their families lives! 
  • Figure out your position on
  • Do you want a local surro/ ip? what can you do for the other party if you can't find one locally? 
  • Find out your states Surrogacy laws!!Some states are TOTALLY illegal to do surrogacy like Washington DC, New York, Arizona. Then range all the way down to open and easy states like California, Illinois and Florida. 
  • Do you want Traditional Surrogacy or Gestational Surrogacy? know your reasons WHY. Be open to considering terms of WHY from the other party as well. 
  • Decide if you want to work with an agency: are they exclusive? are they inclusive or just a match maker? 

Surrogates:  

The surrogates need to make sure they are medically, financially, and emotionally ready and prepared to be a surrogate. PERIOD!   


  • Surrogacy should NEVER be for financial reasons. 
    • I kind of reference being called to be a surrogate similar to a nun being called to be a nun. It is not meant for everyone, but it has to come from within your soul WELL before any thought of monetary gain. Would you do it for free if it didn't change your way of life ? 
    • Speaking of money, the surro needs to decide on what they will ask IP's for for their compensation. When  figuring out your compensation rate it can feel "tricky". There can be feelings  that you are taking advantage of them, you aren't being valued, I have had an IM flat out tell me that my rate was horrifying because its "not that hard" to be pregnant. But at the same time needs to take in account how the pregnancy affects your life. 
    • Be aware of what financially will change in your life if you are a surrogate. What will you need to pay for? Will there be lost wages? Can you do your work from home? How will your kids and home be cared for if you were to go on bedrest? 
  • Have yourself Emotionally available to be a surrogate. 
    • DO not go into surrogacy if you are trying to "discover yourself" 
    • Surrogates should not have a history of mental illness including: suicidal attempts, depression, bipolar, schizophrenia, self injury (also known as cutting), bulimia, anorexia. 
    • Seeing a therapist is great ...cause lets be honest here.. EVERYONE has had crappy things happen, but being clinically diagnosed with an unstable disorder is NOT a fit for a surrogate. Being a surrogates has enough ups and downs that adding mental illness to it is  a DISASTER! 
    • Have an emotionally stable support system! Have friends and family that will be supportive of your choice to be a surrogate. Stress can harm the baby, and you NEED to be surrounded by supportive people while your pregnant! for the safety of the IP's  baby! 
  • Medically prepared: Believe it or not but a surrogate has to have ALOT to become a surro! 
    • BMI under 35-- the lower the better- some clinics for IVF will only take surros under 30 .. when I got serious about being a surro, my BMI was 50.5. It took me a year to get healthy enough! 
    • Medically healthy!! No diabetes, lupus, or other serious medical conditions. 

    • Make sure you can pass and provide your IP's with a current, no less than 6 months old:  
      • Psychological exam, 
      • Physical, 
      • Pap Smear, 
      • Clearance letter by OB, 
      • Blood testing for: Chlamydia, GC culture HIV 1 & 2 RPR TS Hepatitis B Hepatitis C CBC CMV IgM Blood Metabolic Chem Panel Blood type and Rh
      • Hair follicle drug testing
    • I also went the extra mile and had an SIS done to assure the family of my Uterine health.
    • For a GS, be OK with taking injectable medications! its part of the IVF process!
FOR ME: I am a marriage and family therapist and I also am a health coach.  I chose my professions so that I can fulfill both on being a stay at home single mom and also financially meeting the needs of my family.  I could have easily looked to be a surro after having my oldest 11 years ago, after all I lived in California, which is a perfect surro state, but I was also very immature at 20 and didn't know what I wanted in life (though at the time I thought I was!) I  didn't have my family financially set up. I now have myself in a financial, emotional, and medically good place, I own my own home, I have an AMAZINGLY SUPPORTIVE group of friends and family. I have a good job that sustains me and my kids well, I eat super healthy, I could still lose another 20-40  pounds or so,  but over all I'm pretty healthy :) perfect for a surrogacy Journey :)

Intended Parents: 

Similar to Surros, you need to be Emotionally, Financially and Medically prepared to go into a journey. However your perspective is slightly different: 
  • Financial- 
    • Usually at this point in an IP's life usually have already spent THOUSANDS on trying to have a baby their financial resources may be tapped out and drained. So what needs to truly be looked at is can you truly afford  having a surrogate? 
    • Financially ready to pay for: the Legal ($1500-$7000) , Medical (insurance, so pays etc)($2500+) IVF treatment (for GS) ($7,500-16,000) Surrogate Fee ($25,000-$45,000) Agency Fee's (if you use an agency) ($3,000-10,000)  Travel for surrogate and other random fee's ($0-5,000) 
    • Look into loans and ways to pay for the process. it can be hard on your family's income. 
  • Emotionally - this part is-well emotional- even though I have the IP's emotions in my thoughts at all times, please understand, that we have to truly seek these questions to know that we ARE ready! (This is not meant to attack or hurt anyone at ALL, but to help seek closure. I'm a therapist remember, its my job to help hash out emotions)
    • Intended Mother- are you emotionally prepared to handle another woman having your baby? Can you love your surro without jealousy and anger at your own body?  Have you grieved your miscarriages and ready to seek another emotional roller coaster?  (lets be honest surrogacy is an EMOTIONAL roller Coaster! ) 
    • Is your marriage/ relationship doing well? are you trying to have a baby to save your marriage? 
    • Are you seeing or have seen a therapist to help you process your emotions? or to help you and your spouse? 
    • Don't be obsessed with having a baby. It will over stress you and wont help anyone! 
    • I recommend Reading: Mark Matika's book on Learning to love yourself and living life happy and fulfilled. Its an AMAZING book that I read MONTHLY! (its a thin book that can be read in a couple hours) This will help set up your emotional grounding :) and EVERY TIME I read it I find more and more that I need to learn and implement into my life! 
  • Medically
    • Are your gametes tested and ready to go? 
      • Do you have an RE
      • Have your husbands sperm tested, and your eggs tested to see if you can use your own gametes in the process. 
      • Do you have Embrio's ready? if you are testing for diseases have you had it done yet? 
    • If you need donated Gametes (sperm or eggs) do you have that lined up? 
    • Some states require the IM to prove her infertility do you have that documentation ready?
    • Have your testing ready for your Surro so that she knows what is going her body is not going to harm her. Blood testing for: Chlamydia, GC, culture HIV 1 & 2 RPR TS Hepatitis B Hepatitis C, CBC, CMV IgM Blood Metabolic Chem Panel Blood type and Rh,


OK so yes that was ALOT to do and know when thinking about Surrogacy. But they are all things that need to be thought about. 

I really hope this is helpful to you! 
I'm sure  I missed a few things... What else do you think needs to be on this list? Post in the comments. 

I will post tomorrow about 

Step 2: Seeking and Finding a Match- What to look for and Ask. 






Monday, July 8, 2013

LIMBO NO MORE!!! WE ARE A GO!!!!!

YEAHHhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh after a weekend of boo hooing and being sad that I might possibly not be matched... the DIVINE MISS M and her hubby (haven't given him a nickname yet) heard back from their doctor and they are gonna be able to test the eggs before implantation.. so what does that mean ??? I'M MATCHED!!!!!!  SO SO SO SO SO excited that I am with her!! I really did love talking with her !!

So now .. I feel silly.. cause I cried for nothing... but on the bright side I'm gonna help an AMAZING COUPLE with bringing their baby(s) to life for them!! SO EXCITED!

Now its on to screening ;)

WOO HOOO :)

Friday, July 5, 2013

Heartbreak- Again ? Everything happens for a REASON!

SO today I am in limbo land..

#1- I believe everything happens for Purpose and a reason. I know the perfect family to match with is out there waiting for me and, as in my analogy earlier , like dating.. it sucks when you think your a match but end up not being a match. Then you realize that had you not broken up you won't meet the one you're REALLY meant to be with... (looks up) .. did that make any sense ??

#2- I still might be matched, but might not be- no ones "fault" actually as they say "it is what it is" but that statement is not so easy said ... So after our amazing conversation with the Divine Miss M and I, we were pretty confident we were matched. She even said to the agency that she felt that we were matched. Husband however doesn't like my views on termination. Thus they are waiting to hear back from the doctor.

Let me give you back story:
They have 1 pre-tested embryo that has no genetic abnormalities that is frozen and ready to go) what is left from the last surro) They also have 10 eggs frozen that still need to be fertilized. They feel that if they thaw and fertilize the other eggs that they want to try a fresh cycle, which doesn't allow for the results of the test to come back until after either they are frozen or IVF done. Which is where our hang up is.

#3 I am bound morally because of my religious beliefs as far as abortion goes. Lets just say  have been raised to believe that abortion is wrong no matter what. Throughout my life I have heard, "in cases of mothers safety, rape or insest "might" be ok." I came into Surrogacy with the belief that Termination would never happen in any case at all.. however I then heard of the case in Connecticut this year about the baby that is suffering in a surrogacy case. I wouldn't want a baby to SUFFER! It began to open my views. I have always been an open minded person however how can I choose to harm a baby on purpose and DAMN the baby to constant suffering?!?! I CANT do that! YES technically the baby is theirs.. COMPLETELY understood, and YES they would have to deal with the implications of the baby after it is born, however, I TOO have to deal with the conscious of  terminating a life afterall it is in MY body.  I think Its a conversation that all 3 should make, not just the 2 IP's.

I have opened my beliefs to allow for 1: my safety 2: in cases where the baby would suffer or wouldn't survive long after birth without medical intervention 3: MS 4: CP 5: SEVERE abnormalities: body distortion, critical missing body parts, conjoined twins etc.
I think thats a BIG change in my prior belief system.

Anyhow: that is where I am stuck. Originally the mother was told my stand, she still wanted to meet me and inevitably  yes we "fell in love" with each other's feelings about surrogacy but I have ben told her husband doesn't feel the same way. :(( that sucks cause I haven't ever met him :( I know that if he met me he would be able to understand me and my stance better. I am not a mean cruel person but I don't feel a blanket statement is good either.

Abortion is a serious point of argument for people, however, it is part of surrogacy. It is something that has to be talked about. I have not matched over a dozen times because of this very issue. It breaks my heart.

Again- everything happens for a reason and purpose right !
Lets cross fingers for either Divine MRs M and her hubby giving me a chance, or finding a couple that will be OK with my views!! The agency said I am free to keep looking.. that hurts my heart just thinking of that, but I guess I should keep looking.  :((

Wednesday, July 3, 2013

Checking On eggs

So now that me and the Divine Mrs M are matched She is getting a hold of her RE to see what her options are with her eggs she has.
She has one embi that is ready to go. She also has 10 frozen eggs. She doesn't know if she wants to just try one cycle with the one baby, or if she should do a fresh cycle with her frozen eggs (because it increases the odds of the baby implanting aka stickiness.) So she is checking with him on what he thinks she should do. I guess since tomorrow is the 4th of July the fertility clinic is closed for the holiday. So we won't hear back till Monday.
I can't wait to meet her in person ;) heck, I have to say I can't wait till I can have open conversation with her!  With the agency until the paperwork is squared we basically talk through the Agency. I have questions I forgot to ask in the first conversation and now I just have to wait for me to ask. Which is a downside to working with an agency, but the upside is that  I feel more secure with an agency. I  can't wait to make a deep bond with her :) (her hubby too) !!

Surrogacy Contract Example

This is an Example Surrogacy Contract Agreement that I had drawn up for what my needs were with my first match. I thought it might be useful for others to see what is included in a surrogacy agreement. 

Before you read it I want to make it VERY CLEAR.. surrogacy is NOT about money.. it is about providing an amazing gift for the IP's!! 

However having the contract is nice to have to make it clear ALL ASPECTS of the pregnancy to both parties to limit miscommunication or confusion


Surrogacy Contract Agreement
Between                     and _________
THIS AGREEMENT is made this _  day of ______ 2013,  by and between (fathers name)  and  (mother’s name)  (hereinafter referred to as "Genetic Father and Genetic Mother" or collectively as "Genetic Parents") and ________________  (hereinafter referred to as "Embryo Carrier"). 

The Parties are aware that surrogate parenting remains a new and unsettled area of law and that this Agreement may be held unenforceable in whole or in part as against public policy.  The parents intend to move to California due to a job offer to the Genetic Father. The mother has shown proof that she cannot carry an embryo to a viable pregnancy. The Embryo Carrier intends to travel to California for Embryo transfer and Delivery. Therefore the Intended parents and Embryo carrier agree to use California State Surrogacy law.

I. Purpose and Intent 
The sole purpose and intent of this Agreement is to provide a means for  (fathers name)  Genetic Father, to fertilize in vitro an ovum from his wife (mother’s name)  , Genetic Mother, for transfer and implantation into (surrogate  name) , Embryo Carrier, who agrees to carry the ovum/embryo to term and relinquish custody of the child born pursuant to this Agreement to its Genetic Parents, (fathers name)  and  (mother’s name)  . 

II. Representations 
(fathers name)  and  (mother’s name)  represent that they are a married couple, each over the age of eighteen years, who desire to enter into this Agreement(fathers name)  and  (mother’s name)  further represent that to the best of their knowledge they are respectively capable of producing semen and an ovum(s) of sufficient nature for in vitro fertilization and subsequent transfer into (surrogate name)  , Embryo Carrier.
(mother’s name)   cannot carry her own embryo as proved by miscarriages and inability to get pregnant over the past __  years.  (put any other reasoning for having a Surrogate to prove to the courts why it is necessary).
 (mother’s name)  will go through the process of retrieving eggs but if they are not viable then the couple will use donated eggs.  
The Genetic Parent’s address is:  _________________________________________
Phone number(s) to reach Genetic Parents: ______________________________

(surrogate name)  represents that she is a divorced woman, over the age of eighteen years, and that she desires to enter into this Agreement for the reasons stated above and not for herself to become the parent of any child conceived (fathers name)  and  (mother’s name)  pursuant to this Agreement. (surrogate name)  further represents that to the best of her knowledge she is capable of carrying an implanted ovum/embryo to term. 
The Embryo Carrier’s  address is :
Phone number(s) to reach Embryo Carrier: Cell phone

III Selection of Physicians and Counselor. 
A.   Genetic Parents and Embryo Carrier will jointly select physician(s) to examine Embryo Carrier, order and review medical and blood tests for Genetic Parents, Embryo Carrier, and perform IVF procedures (the "Responsible Physician"). The parties will select a doctor to do the review and perform the IVF procedures. 

B.   The overseeing responsible doctor will be Dr.  ____ OB-GYN from Cedar City (clinic name, city, state) . The parties have agreed jointly to use a Midwife in addition to the OB. If at any time the Midwife feels there is a risk to the baby Dr ____  with be the advising doctor. Otherwise the midwife will deliver the baby either at the Intended parent’s home, in California or in a birthing center.  Whichever is most appropriate and all parties are comfortable with at the time of delivery.  

C.  At any time that Genetic Parents are advised it is appropriate, Genetic Parents and Embryo Carrier will jointly select an infertility specialist to become the Responsible Doctor. 

IV. Physical Evaluations 
A.  Embryo Carrier will have a medical examination, blood and other tests and psychological testing as determined by Genetic Parents and their advisors.  (surrogate name) expressly waives the privilege of confidentiality and permits the release of any reports or information obtained as a result of said examination/testing (fathers name)  and  (mother’s name) . Embryo Carrier maintains her confidentiality with the therapy sessions involved in the surrogacy.

B.  Embryo Carrier’s Husband has not had, and will not have any contact with the Embryo carrier and lives in another state and will not interfere in these proceedings in any manner. 

C.   Genetic Parents will have blood and STD tests as determined by the Responsible Physician.  (fathers name)  and  (mother’s name)  expressly waives the privilege of confidentiality and permits the release of any reports or information obtained as a result of said examination/testing to (Surrogate name).

V. Conditions. 
All parties' obligations under this Agreement (other than the obligation of Genetic Parents to reimburse Embryo Carrier for expenses incurred) are conditioned on: 

A.  The approval or Genetic Parents and their advisors of results of Embryo Carrier’s exams and tests. 

B.  The approval of Embryo Carrier and the Responsible Physician of results of Genetic Parents STD tests. 

VI. Medical Instructions 
A.  (surrogate name)  agrees to adhere to all medical instructions given to her, including abstention from sexual intercourse as directed by the IVF Physician. (surrogate name)  agrees to follow a transfer and prenatal medical examination schedule set by the attending Physician and Midwife.  

B.  Embryo Carrier will not smoke, drink alcoholic beverages, use illegal drugs, non-prescription medication or prescription medication without approval of the Responsible Physician. 

C.  Embryo Carrier will undergo prenatal medical exams as directed by the Responsible Physician, will submit to other medical tests, and will take only drugs and vitamins recommended or prescribed by the Responsible Physician. Which include Herbalife Multivitamins, and nutrition shakes, which she already takes.

D.  Embryo Carrier will do everything reasonably appropriate for her good health and the good health of the fetus during pregnancy. 

E.  Embryo Carrier will not engage in any hazardous or inappropriate activity during the pregnancy. 

F.   Embryo Carrier will not travel outside of Utah, Nevada, California for work only and the Parent’s state  if the Intended parents request it after second trimester of pregnancy, except in the event of extreme illness or death in the family (with doctors approval). 

VII. IVF Procedures 
It is the parties' intention to do the following: 

A.  Try the number of cycles recommended by the Responsible Physician, but stop at any time that the physician recommends stopping 

B.  Transfer a maximum of 2 embryos per cycle for the first 2 cycles. If after the first 2 cycles there is not an implanted fetus there can be an increase to 3 embryos.

VIII. Early Termination of Agreement 
Before Embryo Carrier becomes pregnant, the agreement may be terminated: 

A.  By Genetic Parents, if the Responsible Physician's opinion is that Embryo Carrier will not become pregnant within 8 cycles. 

B.  By Genetic Parents, if the Responsible Physician or counselor determines that Embryo Carrier is not a good candidate for carrying out this agreement. 

C.  By Genetic Parents or Embryo Carrier, if Embryo Carrier has not become pregnant after 8 cycles. 

D.  By Embryo Carrier, if the Responsible Physician determines that Genetic Parents are not good candidates for carrying out this agreement. 

E.   At the discretion of Genetic Parents or Embryo Carrier. 
In the event of early termination, Genetic Parents will be responsible for Embryo Carrier's costs incurred up to date of termination. 

IX. Termination of Pregnancy. 
The parties recognize that Embryo Carrier has the constitutional right to abort or not abort the pregnancy, however, the parties intend the following: 

A.  Genetic Parents and Embryo Carrier agree not to abort the pregnancy except to save the life of Embryo Carrier. 

B.  Genetic Parents and Embryo Carrier agree not to selectively reduce the number of fetuses in the case of a multiple pregnancy. 
X. Birth 
A. Location. 

It is the intent of both parties that the Embryo carrier will have a water birth for the delivery of the baby either at home or at the Birthing center whichever is most appropriate at the time. OB, Dr. ___ , of (clinic name) ,   will oversee the pregnancy and potential birth if the Embryo Carrier cannot make it to California in time for the birth. It is the intention that the embryo carrier will travel to California and  stay in California at 32 weeks for Multiples and 36 weeks for a single baby, prior to delivery and anytime that she is put on an expected long term bed rest that could lead to delivery, at the expense of the Intended parents, with the ultimate intent to deliver in California at a home birth at the Intended Parent’s home, with the assistance of a midwife.

B. Notice of Birth. 

Embryo Carrier will notify Genetic Parents as soon as she goes into labor so that Genetic Parents can join her at the place of birth. Genetic Parents intend to be present during the delivery. 

C. Responsibility for Child. 

Genetic Parents shall be responsible for any children born, whether healthy or not. Embryo Carrier waives the right to make medical decisions regarding the child after birth. 

D. Child Born with Severe Birth Defects 

If the child is born with birth defects so serious that life sustaining equipment is required and physician recommends that the child not be placed on such equipment or not be resuscitated, Genetic Parents will make the decision. If Embryo Carrier disagrees then she will be responsible for the child from that time, and Genetic Parents will have no further responsibility. 

E. Name. 

Genetic Parents will name the child. 
F. People Attending birth
The people that attend the birth are the choice of the Embryo Carrier.  It is her intent that the Genetic Parents will attend the birth, midwife and her assistant’s, her doula, and a birthing photographer.

XI. Relinquishment/Adoption. 
Embryo Carrier will relinquish physical custody of the child to Genetic Parents upon birth. Embryo Carrier and Genetic Parents will cooperate in all proceedings for adoption of the child by Genetic Parents. 

XII. Paternity test. 
Embryo Carrier, Embryo Carrier’s Husband and Genetic Parents agree that the child will have paternity tests, if Genetic Parents request. 

XIII. After Birth Contact. 
A.   Embryo Carrier can see the child while in the hospital, but the child will be in the care of Genetic Parents from birth forward. 

B.  After Genetic Parents take the child from the hospital, Embryo Carrier. Genetic Parents will keep Embryo Carrier informed by sending a picture and a letter about the child’s progress at least on an annual basis. Embryo Carrier agrees that she will be reasonably available if child has questions about his/her birth mother. 

XIV. Counseling 
A. Counseling Sessions 

It is the parties' intention that Embryo Carrier will attend at least 1 counseling sessions per month with the Responsible Counselor in Utah during the pregnancy. It is also the parties' intention that Embryo Carrier will attend more counseling sessions if: 

(i)  Embryo Carrier wants to attend the sessions;
(ii)  Genetic Parents want Embryo Carrier to attend the sessions; or 
(iii)  Embryo Carrier's attendance is strongly recommended by the Responsible Counselor. 
Embryo Carrier will use her reasonable efforts to attend the meetings, but will not be penalized for not attending if she does not feel well. 

B. Disagreements. 

The parties intend that if they have disagreements among them that they are unable to resolve quickly or if there are issues that they want to bring up before a third party, that they will discuss the disagreements or issues in a conference call or meeting under the direction of the Responsible Counselor. The parties acknowledge that the Responsible Counselor is very experienced in surrogacy matters and agree to be guided by her recommendations. 

XV. Fees, Reimbursement, Insurance, and Other Expenses 
A. Embryo Carrier’s Fee 

1.  Genetic Parents agree to pay Embryo Carrier as compensation for services provided the sum of $____ . The compensation shall be paid in 10 equal monthly installments, the first being paid after the pregnancy is confirmed. 

2.  In the case of a multiple pregnancy, Genetic Parents agree to pay Embryo Carrier a bonus fee of $4,000 per additional child. Bonus fee will be added to the original fee of $______  and disbursed in equal monthly installments. 

3.  Escrow Account - Genetic Parents will open an escrow account and will place all fees in the account before IVF procedures begin. Genetic Parents’ attorney will be authorized to disburse funds from the account per the payment schedule set out above (Section XV, Part A, Paragraph 1 and 2). All other Fee’s as described in the remaining parts of this contract will be paid to the recipient of the fee within 2 weeks of the Genetic carrier reporting the expense with receipt (for reimbursement) or bill to the Genetic parents.

4.  Embryo Carrier will receive the total fees set out above (Section XV, Part A, Paragraph 1 and 2), provided she carries the child(ren) at least 32 weeks for a single, 28 weeks if multiples.

5.  In the event that a cesarean is ordered in either a single or multiple birth, Embryo Carrier will be paid an additional $3000. 

6.  Genetic Parents will place $5,000  in the aforementioned escrow account (v) to pay for any medical expenses not covered by insurance. 

7.  For a completed cycle that does not result in a pregnancy, Embryo Carrier will be paid a sum of $1000. 
8. Loss of any female reproductive organs is $5000 paid at time of loss.
9.. Invasive procedures (each procedure is separate, regardless if they are performed on the same day) are to include amniocentesis (per sac), cerclage, CVS or ectopic pregnancy with or without tubal removal, DNC undergoes or experiences a miscarriage with a clinical abortion), HSG, SIS, selective reduction, hysteroscopy, termination, abortion prior to 12 weeks are $750. As well as any Post-partum Invasive procedures relating to the pregnancy and/or delivery are included up to eight (8) weeks after delivery or termination of pregnancy.

B. Termination of Pregnancy 

1.  If Embryo Carrier miscarries (through no fault of her own) or is advised by by the Responsible Physician that an abortion is necessary to save her own life, then the payment plan outlined in Section XV, Part A, will cease and all payments to date will belong to Embryo Carrier. Any outstanding uninsured or unreimbursed medical expenses will be the responsibility of the Genetic Parents. 

2.  If Embryo Carrier aborts the pregnancy when not directed to do so by the Responsible Physician and Genetic Parents, Genetic Parents will have no responsibility for surrogacy fee or expenses other than Embryo Carrier's expenses incurred to that date. 

C. Insurance 

1.   Genetic Parents will be responsible for term life insurance for Embryo Carrier

2. The policy will be bought before the first IVF cycle and will remain in effect until 2 months after delivery or end of pregnancy. It will cost approximately $500 premium for $500,000 face amount of insurance. The beneficiaries will be Embryo Carrier's Children:  (name beneficiaries) .

D. Counseling 

1.  Genetic Parents responsible for costs of psychological screening for Embryo Carrier. 

2.  Genetic Parents responsible for costs of counseling for Embryo Carrier. 

3. Genetic Parents responsible for up to 5 counseling sessions for Embryo Carrier with the Responsible Counselor after the birth, if needed. 

E. Medical Payments. 

1.  Genetic Parents responsible for the reasonable costs of medical screening for Embryo Carrier, Genetic Mother and Genetic Father. 

2.  Genetic Parents responsible for all medical costs related to conception, pregnancy and birth not covered by medical insurance. Including but not limited to, Fertility specialists, specialized physicians, Hospital stays, medical testing, Midwife, and chiropractic care.

3.  If a medical specialist for high-risk pregnancy is recommended by the Responsible Physician and not covered by insurance, Genetic Parents will be responsible for all related costs. 

F. Attorney's Fees. 

Genetic Parents responsible for their Attorney’s fee’s and the Embryo Carrier's attorney's fees  for all proceedings regarding the Surrogacy including but not limited to contract’s, mediation, adoption and litigation. 

G. Other Payments 

1.  Reimbursement for child care expenses related to Embryo Carrier's travels to doctor visits. ($10/hr or $75/day for overnight care) 

2.  Reimbursement for gas and travel expenses at $.45 per mile for car, airline tickets, and hotel in connection with doctor, delivery, counseling visits or any other travel incurred due to the pregnancy. 

3.  Household helper: Genetic Parents will provide $100 per week  in the case of multiple pregnancy or high-risk pregnancy in which the Responsible physician requires Embryo Carrier to be on bed rest or drastically reduce her activity or Housekeeping allowance of $50 every week beginning the 1st day of the third trimester of pregnancy ending 4 weeks after delivery of a child.

4.  Maternity clothing allowance of $500.00 is payable upon reaching 12 weeks gestation. An additional $250 for multiples is allowed at 24 weeks gestation.


5.  Stillborn 
Genetic Parents will be responsible for any funeral or cremation expenses. 

6. Genetic Parents are not responsible for any charges or costs unless provided for in this Agreement. 

XVI. Other Issues 
A. Publicity/Confidentiality. 
1.  Embryo Carrier will not disclose information about Genetic Parents or about this arrangement to the media unless Genetic Parents approve the disclosure. 

2.  Genetic Parents will not disclose information about Embryo Carrier or about this arrangement to the media unless Embryo Carrier approves the disclosure. 
3. Both parties advance agree to allowing each other to write about their experience via twitter, Facebook, any social media site or any public blogging site as long as the other party keeps the confidentiality of the other party’s name and identifying information. Unless the other party reveals themselves on that media as to whom they are. With the main intent of allowing both parties friends and family to be able to be supportive, stay in touch with and be educated on the entire process.  All posts are to be positive in tone and never allowed to be demeaning, negative or slanderous in manner.

B. Death of Genetic Mother or Genetic Father Precedes Birth of Child(ren) 
1.  If Genetic Father should die before child is born, the child shall be placed with Genetic Mother as the mother, and all terms of this Agreement continue. 

2.  If Genetic Mother should die before child is born, the child shall be placed with Genetic Father as the father, and all terms of this Agreement continue. 

3.  If both Genetic Mother and Genetic Father should die before child is born, they have chosen __________________ to be child's guardian and take custody at birth. 

4.  In the event of the death of both Genetic Mother and Genetic Father, ________________ will be responsible for all expenses related to the surrogacy. 

XVII. Arbitration 
Any and all disputes relating to this Agreement or breach thereof shall be settled by arbitration in by Utah State Court Mediator Jodie Jones 146 N Stone Mountain Dr. St George UT 84770, Phone # (435) 632-3136 or (435) 628-3166 in accordance with then current rules of the American Arbitration Association, and judgment upon the award entered by the arbitrators may be entered in any Court having jurisdiction hereto. Costs of arbitration, including reasonable attorney's to the prevailing party by the Party designated by the Arbitrator or Court. Should one party either dismiss or abandon the claim or counterclaim before hearing thereon, the other Party shall be deemed the "Prevailing Party" pursuant to this Agreement. Should both parties receive judgment or award on their respective claims, the party in whose favor the larger judgment or award is rendered shall be deemed the "Prevailing Party" pursuant to this Agreement. 

XVIII. SIGNATURES 
Successors & Assigns: 
This agreement shall insure to the benefit of and be binding on the parties, their heirs, personal representatives, successors and assigns. IN WITNESS WHEREOF, the parties have executed this agreement on the date first written above. 
Dated this _____ day of _____, _____ at _____________________, ________


____________________________________, Embryo Carrier
By: (surrogate name)       
NOTARY
State of _____________ County of______________________________ 
I, ___________________________________, a Notary Public of said County,  
Do certify that the foregoing contract was acknowledged before me on the 
_____________day of_____________________, 20____. 
Given under my hand this ____________day of ______________, 20_____. 
My commission expires:  _________________/__________________________________
                     Date                              Signature of Notary Public

  
                                                                                                                               
____________________________________, Genetic Father
By: (fathers name) 
NOTARY
State of _____________ County of______________________________ 
I, ___________________________________, a Notary Public of said County,  
Do certify that the foregoing contract was acknowledged before me on the 
_____________day of_____________________, 20____. 
Given under my hand this ____________day of ______________, 20_____. 
My commission expires:  _________________/__________________________________
                     Date                              Signature of Notary Public



____________________________________, Genetic Mother
By:  (mother’s name) 
NOTARY
State of _____________ County of______________________________ 
I, ___________________________________, a Notary Public of said County,  
Do certify that the foregoing contract was acknowledged before me on the 
_____________day of_____________________, 20____. 
Given under my hand this ____________day of ______________, 20_____. 
My commission expires:  _________________/__________________________________
                     Date                              Signature of Notary Public


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