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| Getting ready for the SIS in May |
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| My beautiful Uterus in the SIS test |
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| all 10 viles of blood that they took in May... its ALOT of tests they took!! |
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| Taking blood for the testing for the thyroid |
Monday, October 28, 2013
The RE gave me the all clear!!! (preliminary)
Saturday, October 26, 2013
The search has ENDED! (we hope) Maybe Goldilocks will have... ?.. 3.. ? bears??
OMG OMG OMG OMG.. yes I sound like a teenager when she has her first real crush but let me tell you I am IN LOVE with my new match!!
We have not officially said we are a match but I can feel in my soul this is IT !! FINALLY!!
SO MANY things to say about the new IP's ..
IM- I'm calling "Goldilocks"- she is the SWEETEST woman I think I've even met, has the cutest southern drawl, GORGEOUS blonde curly hair. and we have had the most AMAZING loving, warm, spiritual, laughing, crying, free loving, conversations already!! - She found me from my ad of Surro Moms Online a week ago, weve been talking ever since. When I talk to her I can FEEL her positive, loving kind gentile soul! We really do feel like soul sisters.
IF- I just met him via Skype this morning, then skyped again tonight.- awesome sense of humor! So fun! he is just as precious and I too feel like we are old friends when we chat! he looks like my moms neighbor, one of the Dr's in town, glasses, baldish, sweet soul you can see in his eyes.
and WOW watching them interact is just breathtaking.. these two TRULY love each other and you can FEEL IT SO organically!! Ahhhhhh.. I'm so happy and excited!!
Our story so far is so amazing! We are the same religion; we are all members of The Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints, most know us as "Mormon" we call ourselves "LDS". Their egg donor is also of the same religion (which is rare on both counts!) Our religion encourages adoption for infertile couples, and therefore doesn't look at surrogacy often.
Funny enough the church is how I was introduced to surrogacy! A woman in my church was carrying her sisters child and I was fascinated and KNEW I would do it as well one day... I always said " for a spiritual sister" not having a clue that it meant sister in the gospel!
OK so when Goldilocks and I first started talking We like totally loved each other but she was still grieving and hurt by their previous surrogates, inability to get and stay pregnant :( so she was reluctant to be hopeful (that's OK cause I had enough hope for both of us!) but we both really liked each other! So I called and talked to her clinic's nurse, she was sweet as pie too! and I sent them all my records and she said everything sounded really good, but that the Dr had to do the official yes. (Still waiting on that now). So once they clear me we will go "official."
So ever since we started talking we've been slowly cranking up the communication, texting, calling, and the conversations get better and better. Just when I think our last conversation is fantastic she goes and makes it even better on hte next one! :P
OK so yes officially I am in the honeymoon, in love cloud 9 phase of this relationship...
lets hope Monday the RE calls and says its officially perfect! and we can be official!
Goldilocks brought up writing a book today I think that it is PERFECT! We have a great plan on the conception of the book and I cant wait to get started on my part :) It will be an LDS couple and their surrogate, story of our lives with each other with a religious approach I am SO excited about it!! :)
We have not officially said we are a match but I can feel in my soul this is IT !! FINALLY!!
SO MANY things to say about the new IP's ..
IM- I'm calling "Goldilocks"- she is the SWEETEST woman I think I've even met, has the cutest southern drawl, GORGEOUS blonde curly hair. and we have had the most AMAZING loving, warm, spiritual, laughing, crying, free loving, conversations already!! - She found me from my ad of Surro Moms Online a week ago, weve been talking ever since. When I talk to her I can FEEL her positive, loving kind gentile soul! We really do feel like soul sisters.
IF- I just met him via Skype this morning, then skyped again tonight.- awesome sense of humor! So fun! he is just as precious and I too feel like we are old friends when we chat! he looks like my moms neighbor, one of the Dr's in town, glasses, baldish, sweet soul you can see in his eyes.
and WOW watching them interact is just breathtaking.. these two TRULY love each other and you can FEEL IT SO organically!! Ahhhhhh.. I'm so happy and excited!!
Our story so far is so amazing! We are the same religion; we are all members of The Church Of Jesus Christ of Latter day Saints, most know us as "Mormon" we call ourselves "LDS". Their egg donor is also of the same religion (which is rare on both counts!) Our religion encourages adoption for infertile couples, and therefore doesn't look at surrogacy often.
Funny enough the church is how I was introduced to surrogacy! A woman in my church was carrying her sisters child and I was fascinated and KNEW I would do it as well one day... I always said " for a spiritual sister" not having a clue that it meant sister in the gospel!
OK so when Goldilocks and I first started talking We like totally loved each other but she was still grieving and hurt by their previous surrogates, inability to get and stay pregnant :( so she was reluctant to be hopeful (that's OK cause I had enough hope for both of us!) but we both really liked each other! So I called and talked to her clinic's nurse, she was sweet as pie too! and I sent them all my records and she said everything sounded really good, but that the Dr had to do the official yes. (Still waiting on that now). So once they clear me we will go "official."
So ever since we started talking we've been slowly cranking up the communication, texting, calling, and the conversations get better and better. Just when I think our last conversation is fantastic she goes and makes it even better on hte next one! :P
OK so yes officially I am in the honeymoon, in love cloud 9 phase of this relationship...
lets hope Monday the RE calls and says its officially perfect! and we can be official!
Goldilocks brought up writing a book today I think that it is PERFECT! We have a great plan on the conception of the book and I cant wait to get started on my part :) It will be an LDS couple and their surrogate, story of our lives with each other with a religious approach I am SO excited about it!! :)
Tuesday, September 10, 2013
What I look for in IP's
This blog is both for selfish reasons and informative reasons.
Since I am looking for new IP's I thought Id put out there to the universe what Im looking for from my IP's:
Since I am looking for new IP's I thought Id put out there to the universe what Im looking for from my IP's:
- I am looking for a compassionate couple that is mentally prepared to have a healthy secure relationship with me as their surro.
- I am looking for very frequent contact relationship-
- I am looking for a friendship, not a business relationship
- I expect to be text, call skype and chat about things that not only keep each other updated about the baby, but also about daily life, as a friend does.
- Not by a forced friendship, but as a true friendship.
- I am looking for someone who wants a natural birth. I chose not to have chemicals to the most of my ability, I believe it is safer for YOUR baby if its born with no medications no matter where the baby is born, hospital, birth center or home.
- I would love a home birth or a Birthing center to have the baby as a water birth.
- I am open to hospital birth if needs be or if it would make you more comfortable. but I still want natural, with no medications.
- YES it IS your baby, but procedures done to MY body need to be a GROUP decision.
- I don't care what pairing you have, as long as your ready: gay straight, single, married.. I don't care as long as they love each other and this baby!
- I will love and bend over backwards for my IP's and want them to love me just as, much in return.
I am willing to travel for birth- I live in Utah- which IS a surro friendly state for married couples. However Singles or gay couples I would be more than happy to travel to CA for delivery at 32 weeks for twins and 36 weeks for a singleton :)
Let me know if you are what I'm looking for :) Email me :) maryellensurrogate@gmail.com
Available again.. I hate this game...
SO sadly due to some circumstances I am available again :((
For privacy I am not going to say what the change was about, I love and respect mama D and I am sad I cannot carry her baby.. So I am off to look for new IP's ... SO SAD!
I hate restarting this Dance .. but I know the perfect IP's are out there!!
I am a single mom of 2 girls (12 years and 2 years old) I have a Surrogacy blog please visit :) http://maryellensurrogate.blogspot.com/ My last birth was just amazing I loved being pregnant and even totally Loved the delivery ! I chose Hypnobirthing as a natural safe method of birth and it was everything I wanted and
more! Here is the book I made my baby after I delivered .. I plan on making a similar book for my IP's and thier baby as my gift to them for allowing me to be in their lives :) Donna's Birth Book I wish to be known by the future child as an aunt and I will love them just as one! I am not the childs parent, and never will pretend to be but I do want to love them and you as my IP's!
I know that for my own self I am done having children. I LOVE being a mama, and just want to give that LOVING GIFT to parents that would love to and need to as well!! I LOVED being pregnant SO MUCH and would LOVE to offer my body to help other mothers and/or fathers!! Straight or gay I don't care...as long as you are a loving HEALTHY SOLID couple!! I am LDS (mormon) and live a very natural Clean lifestyle. No smoking drinking drugs. Iam a very spiritual person and feel compelled to help another family. My IP's might often hear me say: "I need to pray about it" or "I have prayed about it" I don't require my IP's to be spiritual or even agree with my religion but atleast respect that I do. I eat organic and have a mini farm that I raise my own Chickens for eggs and goats for meat and milk. I have a VERY large all organic garden in the summer and love being in the yard its a calming place for me ;) I would like to have regular contact with and build a close life long bond with the IP's. I would encourage them to attend Doctor or Midwife Appts (in person or via skype) and very much hope that they attend the birth!! I would even be open to a home birth at their home!! All truth be told My "ideal" situation would like the IP's to be involved in the pregnancy, and I would like to travel to them for the last month (if they don't live nearby) and allow them to experience the final month of the pregnancy WITH me :) I am VERY into natural birthing methods and would only consider medical intervention when baby or my life is at true risk! that being said I am very pro-life. I do not believe in selective reduction, and if the IP's concern with this I don't recommend more than 2 embryo's The only reason I would terminate a pregnancy would be for and extreme low quality of life for the baby, severe distortion, the baby would be born still born or vegetative or for my health. I will also be open to pumpingbreast milk for the baby as well to make sure the baby is as HEALTHY as possible for you!
I am asking $30,000 Comp plus the customary others (you cover medical, and legal, and the other traditional randoms) however it DOES include lost wages, so you will not be charged for missing work, as a therapist I make $80/ hour and I feel its not fair to charge you for lost wages. it would be way to big of a financial burden for IP's!! I am happy to do this and take a loss in pay for the baby!! I have medical insurance $208 / month.. $2500 deductible $7500 max payout no surro exclusions, no waiting period.
I am FULLY medically cleared, all testing completed May, 8, 2013 Physical, Pap Smear, Clearance letter by OB, Chlamydia, GC culture HIV 1 & RPR TS Hepatitis B Hepatitis C CBC CMV IgM Blood Metabolic Chem PanelBlood type A+ and Rh neg PERFECT! I also fully passed the psychological eval August 2013.
I am a marriage and family therapist and also a health and nutrition coach. I have also been a Doula that works
with a Midwife in my town. I eat VERY healthy! Work out regularly and I have recently lost 104 pounds and getting healthier every day!! :)
If this all sounds like a match for you feel free to add me on Facebook Look for Mary Ellen Crase you can also Skype me mary.ellen.crase or just call me directly on my cell at (435) 531-1242 I look forward to meeting you :)
For privacy I am not going to say what the change was about, I love and respect mama D and I am sad I cannot carry her baby.. So I am off to look for new IP's ... SO SAD!
I hate restarting this Dance .. but I know the perfect IP's are out there!!
This is the add I've began running ...
Hello, Im Mary Ellen,I am a single mom of 2 girls (12 years and 2 years old) I have a Surrogacy blog please visit :) http://maryellensurrogate.blogspot.com/ My last birth was just amazing I loved being pregnant and even totally Loved the delivery ! I chose Hypnobirthing as a natural safe method of birth and it was everything I wanted and
more! Here is the book I made my baby after I delivered .. I plan on making a similar book for my IP's and thier baby as my gift to them for allowing me to be in their lives :) Donna's Birth Book I wish to be known by the future child as an aunt and I will love them just as one! I am not the childs parent, and never will pretend to be but I do want to love them and you as my IP's!
I know that for my own self I am done having children. I LOVE being a mama, and just want to give that LOVING GIFT to parents that would love to and need to as well!! I LOVED being pregnant SO MUCH and would LOVE to offer my body to help other mothers and/or fathers!! Straight or gay I don't care...as long as you are a loving HEALTHY SOLID couple!! I am LDS (mormon) and live a very natural Clean lifestyle. No smoking drinking drugs. Iam a very spiritual person and feel compelled to help another family. My IP's might often hear me say: "I need to pray about it" or "I have prayed about it" I don't require my IP's to be spiritual or even agree with my religion but atleast respect that I do. I eat organic and have a mini farm that I raise my own Chickens for eggs and goats for meat and milk. I have a VERY large all organic garden in the summer and love being in the yard its a calming place for me ;) I would like to have regular contact with and build a close life long bond with the IP's. I would encourage them to attend Doctor or Midwife Appts (in person or via skype) and very much hope that they attend the birth!! I would even be open to a home birth at their home!! All truth be told My "ideal" situation would like the IP's to be involved in the pregnancy, and I would like to travel to them for the last month (if they don't live nearby) and allow them to experience the final month of the pregnancy WITH me :) I am VERY into natural birthing methods and would only consider medical intervention when baby or my life is at true risk! that being said I am very pro-life. I do not believe in selective reduction, and if the IP's concern with this I don't recommend more than 2 embryo's The only reason I would terminate a pregnancy would be for and extreme low quality of life for the baby, severe distortion, the baby would be born still born or vegetative or for my health. I will also be open to pumpingbreast milk for the baby as well to make sure the baby is as HEALTHY as possible for you!
I am asking $30,000 Comp plus the customary others (you cover medical, and legal, and the other traditional randoms) however it DOES include lost wages, so you will not be charged for missing work, as a therapist I make $80/ hour and I feel its not fair to charge you for lost wages. it would be way to big of a financial burden for IP's!! I am happy to do this and take a loss in pay for the baby!! I have medical insurance $208 / month.. $2500 deductible $7500 max payout no surro exclusions, no waiting period.
I am FULLY medically cleared, all testing completed May, 8, 2013 Physical, Pap Smear, Clearance letter by OB, Chlamydia, GC culture HIV 1 & RPR TS Hepatitis B Hepatitis C CBC CMV IgM Blood Metabolic Chem PanelBlood type A+ and Rh neg PERFECT! I also fully passed the psychological eval August 2013.
I am a marriage and family therapist and also a health and nutrition coach. I have also been a Doula that works
with a Midwife in my town. I eat VERY healthy! Work out regularly and I have recently lost 104 pounds and getting healthier every day!! :)
If this all sounds like a match for you feel free to add me on Facebook Look for Mary Ellen Crase you can also Skype me mary.ellen.crase or just call me directly on my cell at (435) 531-1242 I look forward to meeting you :)
Friday, August 30, 2013
Embryo adoption whoa's
Last Friday mama D got a call from the embryo adoption agency saying the embryos she had her eye on were adopted out. I'm so sad for her. She seems at peace with it.
What was special about those embryos is that there were 9 ... all genetically related so she could do sibling journeys with them. also higher chance of baby since if defrosting therea a chance some don't survive thawing as well as if we needed to try multiple cycles we could and wouldn't have to wait for a new adoption.
The problem is they have so many single or double embies. She's hopeing for multiple embryo's.
So in the next week shes searching through California embryo adoptions and if she can't find multiples she'll look outside of CA .. which is tricky cause the further they travel the higher chance of something screwing up and not surviving. So over all caution has to be implimented.
But as my montra in life says .. Everything happens on purpose and as it should be. Her embryos she's meant to have are out there , will be transferred into me and she will have an amazing beautiful baby. Its just a matter of finding them ...
I am at peace with that.
Off the topic .. I will have a minor procedure done today. I have a swollen Bartholonin gland that's turned into a small cyst. I've had it for almost 2 years now. Its not a big deal and It wouldn't affect the surrogacy or pregnancy. But I forsee in pregancy it could get alittle annoying and I think it needs to be drained. And since I'm on a sex fast anyway for the surrogacy I figured I'd go ahead and get it done. ;) (after the procedure you can't have sex for 4 weeks)
Tuesday, August 20, 2013
Birth Control ... Eeeeeeee... first medication of the Surrogacy :)
GOt the go ahead for the first "medication" for my surrogacy journey... something about taking medications makes it more REAL...
So its not like I'm on progesterone day 1 .. surrogacy its a rotation of medications !! Starting with birth control... Seeing as how all my TTC or Surro friends are posting pee sticks I also thought I'd post mine :P along with me BC packet :P
I took the pregnancy test to verify I am not pregnant (not that I thought I was LOL seeing as I'm not another Mary we all read about in the bible) but I think it was more so that I was jealous everyone else was peeing on stick too LOL :P
OH CRAP .. speaking of which I need to get ontop of making ME a personalized set of affirmations for my medication Phase :P (If you dont know what I'm talking about read about them here... ) You can order your own personalized affirmations below ..
So excited its getting really really REAL!!!
Sunday, August 18, 2013
Little Spirits Surround Inspiration!
I love having spiritual experiences! Can I just start out with that? .. well ... I do ... :P
Today I spent at an 8 hour training with a very inspirational friend of mine. His name is DJ ( picture is with him in 2011) and every time I have ever heard him speak, its almost like my spiritual, universe oriented, christ like, GOD ears attune!! and I am very focused on spirit! as personal development guru Dr. Wayne dyer says.- living inspired, by listening TO spirit.
Along with the MANY things I was inspired by today .. I was inspired to help my friend Jill with her personalizing affirmations for her transfer... As I was creating and recording the affirmations I had an overwhelming warmth and peace in my heart, that I recognized as spirit... I love feeling those deeply spiritual connections to the little souls waiting to come!!
**sigh**smile**
I have such peace in my heart in this moment...and I don't want it to go away!
There is no major thing I am posting BTW.. no major surrogacy topic, not major goings on ...
just an experience...
and gratefulness for this peace and calmness I feel.
Today I spent at an 8 hour training with a very inspirational friend of mine. His name is DJ ( picture is with him in 2011) and every time I have ever heard him speak, its almost like my spiritual, universe oriented, christ like, GOD ears attune!! and I am very focused on spirit! as personal development guru Dr. Wayne dyer says.- living inspired, by listening TO spirit.Along with the MANY things I was inspired by today .. I was inspired to help my friend Jill with her personalizing affirmations for her transfer... As I was creating and recording the affirmations I had an overwhelming warmth and peace in my heart, that I recognized as spirit... I love feeling those deeply spiritual connections to the little souls waiting to come!!
**sigh**smile**
I have such peace in my heart in this moment...and I don't want it to go away!
There is no major thing I am posting BTW.. no major surrogacy topic, not major goings on ...
just an experience...
and gratefulness for this peace and calmness I feel.
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